Get the kids up.

And get breakfast ready.

And help the kids pack their lunches

And remind the kids to put those lunches in their backpacks, not the counter.

And get kids out the door to school.


Then start my work day.

And then remember we need to figure out what’s for dinner. And maybe buy groceries.

And add 3 more things to my task list for work.

It’s never-ending some days!

It feels like the task list never gets shorter.

Some days the list truly gets longer!

At times it feels like we’re failing. Maybe you’ll try a new tool or hack and it’ll work for a while. But you eventually find yourself back where you were, overwhelmed and overcommitted. Feeling like it’s never enough.

Sometimes we wonder if we missed a class in school on how to do this thing called life.

I assure you that you did not miss a class. You are not failing. Our society has led women to believe that in order to have it all we have to do it all.

When dads don’t get paternity leave, moms simply get better at doing all the things. Not because they’re better at it by nature, but because they’re the ones doing it every day.

Over time, this leads moms to feel like we need to take on everything related to the house and kids, on top of running a business or growing our own careers. Because we’ve been led to believe that this is what good moms do and nothing will happen if we don’t take care of it.

But when both partners are involved with the household and raising of children, life is richer for everyone.

Getting everyone involved in a household doesn’t happen overnight. And it doesn’t happen by putting up a chore chart or reminders.

It takes time. Conversations. Family meetings. Work on everyone’s part.

But it can happen. This is the work I do with my clients. The work we talk about in my community.

Want to get started? Go here.

If you’re wondering if you missed a class on how to do life, let’s chat! Schedule a call with me!

Your future self will thank you!

The Holidays Are Here!

The holidays are here! Are you ready? 

The pandemic is still complicating things. It might still be a year for social distancing and smaller parties. Or more of staying at home and visiting friends and family on Zoom. 

the holidays are here!

Regardless of how you spend the holidays, here are a few ideas for thriving, not surviving. 


Maybe you’re one to go overboard for the holidays. Everyone gets gifts. You mail cards to everyone you know. And your family is wearing matching PJ’s in the photo that’s on the card you send. 

Before you go nuts, take a minute and step back. 

Make a list of everything you do during the holidays. Look at the list. Examine it. 

Do these tasks make you happy? Or are you doing them because you feel you need to? Are there a few that you can skip? 

Pick the few items that make you happy. Cross the rest off.  No one will notice! 


Ask each family member to pick one activity they enjoy and want to do during the holidays. 

Schedule it. 

Stick with the activities that your family enjoys. Skip the rest! You will all be happier. 

You do not have to say yes to every event that comes your way. If you love attending all the parties and it fills you up, then go! 

But realize that might not be true for everyone in your family. Or you. And that’s ok. 

Say yes to the events that you and your family get the most out of. 

When you’re overbooked, you don’t enjoy the holidays. It feels like one thing after another and before you know it, it’s January and you’re left wondering what happened. 

Being intentional about the events and activities you take on helps you feel present at each of them. Sinking into the fun of the moment. 

Simplify Some More

Are you hosting a meal? What can you do to make it easy? In our family, the person hosting makes the main dish and everyone else brings a side dish. Everyone signs up for something so we don’t end up with 6 side dishes of mashed potatoes. And it takes the pressure off the host to not be in charge of everything. 

Maybe it’s never been done this way in your family. Maybe it’s always been on you to make the holidays happen. That doesn’t mean you can’t request a change. At least start the conversation. It could be as simple as everyone else bringing appetizers or desserts. 

After The Holidays, Evaluate

In January, spend some time thinking about what worked and what didn’t work in December. What did your family enjoy? What do you wish you had skipped? Take notes and put them somewhere you will find next November. 

Try a few of these ideas this year. The key is to only do the things that make you happy. Don’t wear yourself out doing everything! Doing a few things allows you to enjoy those activities and tasks and get the most out of them. 

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    Around The Next Bend

    Years ago, my husband and I went hiking in Acadia, in northern Maine. As we were coming back down the trail, we kept thinking that the trail would end around the next bend. Around the next bend, we’ll be back at the car. This went on for some time. It seemed the trail was never going to end! 

    around the next bend.

    We still joke about it. It’s become a mantra in our lives whenever something seems to be taking longer than it should. It’ll end around the next bend. 

    Maybe this is how you feel about your to-do list. That you’ll get through it soon. It has to get shorter sometime, right? If you just keep chipping away at it. Skipping sleep. Not taking breaks. 

    Around the next bend. 

    Let’s be honest. In this case, it’s not going to end around the next bend. There will always be something on our to-do list. It might feel more manageable some days or weeks. But there will always be tasks. 

    I’m not telling you this to make you sad and feel defeated. I want you to make the realization that it’s ok to take a break from the list. To put something fun on it. Or even put it in a drawer for the afternoon and go do something for yourself. 

    Then, after that break, come back and let’s talk about how to handle the never-ending list. When you really feel like you don’t have the time to deal with what’s on it. Or to even make a dent in the list. 

    Where do you start? 

    Start with a brain dump. Take 10 minutes and write down everything that’s floating around in your head. All the ideas and tasks. Find the post-its and notes you’ve left everywhere. Get them all in one spot. Pull out tasks lost in your emails. 

    Once you have all the tasks in one place, it’s easier to see your priorities. It can’t all be a priority, so you’ll need some guidelines here. Ask yourself the following questions: 

    • What are the quickest / closest deadlines? 
    • What is making my business money? 
    • What project do I need to get started on soon? 
    • Are there tasks on here that I can delete or delegate? 

    What are the next steps? 

    Next, write out each step, as small as possible for all your projects. This helps you get moving on your projects because you know the next steps. 

    You can’t claim you don’t have the time, because you can make the time for small steps. 

    What are your goals and values? 

    Another place to start from is understanding what’s important to you. When you know your goals for your business and your family, you can easily identify the tasks that get you there. Anything else can be deleted. 

    Say No

    The next part is learning to say no. When you know what’s on your plate, you know if another project or client is the right fit. 

    Remember, future you is just as busy as today you. Only say yes to something in the future if you would say yes to it tomorrow. 

    Saying yes to a big project means saying no to something else. 

    Maybe a goal of yours is to spend more time with your family or on exercise or to create another part of your business. Saying yes to a new project or client might take away from that. It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth it. 

    That to-do list might never end, even around the next bend. But you can take back control and deal with it in a way that works for you. So the trail doesn’t feel so long. And you can enjoy the scenery along the way.

    If you want more ideas on how to deal with that never-ending to-do list, sign up below for weekly tips and tricks!

      Let’s Evaluate

      Do you spend your days crossing tasks off your to-do list and making plans and going and going and going?

      Sometimes, we need to stop. Take some time to check in with what’s working and what’s not. Ask ourselves questions and really reflect on what we’re doing.

      I know. I know. You don’t have the time.

      But, what if taking this time helped you create more time?

      Take some time, even 15 minutes, and ask yourself the following questions.

      • What commitments have you taken on in the last 3 months? Are they working for you? Or do you need to find a way to let them go?
      • Are there routines that need to shift?
      • What do the next 3 months look like? What projects do you need to plan now?

      Want to get started on this? Schedule a call with me or download this PDF.

        What Are You Escaping From?

        What are you escaping? 

        I know my life is reaching a point of overwhelm when there are too many post-it notes. When I feel like all I’m doing is creating to-do lists. But not actually doing any of the tasks on the post-its or lists. 

        When this happens, I take a few minutes to get all the tasks and ideas out of my head. Then figure out what really needs to happen right now, today, or this week. 

        When we have a sense of our commitments, it’s easier to say yes or no to something. If it’s a work project, we can talk about renegotiating deadlines. If it’s a volunteer commitment, we know if have the time to give. If it’s our kids asking to do one more activity, we can have a conversation as a family about whether it makes sense or will lead to more overwhelm.

        what are you escaping from? overwhelmed woman with too many people asking things of her.
        How many things have you said yes to in your life because you:
        1. Didn’t know how to say no at the moment?
        2. Felt obligated to do it even though you really didn’t want to?

        Remember that every time you say yes to something you are saying no to something else. And sometimes we have to say no to something that seems like a great opportunity because we know that there’s a better one out there. (Or, we know we need to leave breathing room in our schedules). Make sure that yes is worth it. 

        I want you to design a life that you don’t need to escape from. One that doesn’t have you dreading every Monday. Where you aren’t resentful of the activities you and your family are committed to outside of work and school. 

        It’s a life full of activities and tasks that deserve to be there.

        If you’re feeling resentful and want to figure out a way to change this, let’s talk

        This PDF will help you too! 6 Steps to Peace And Accomplishment

          Step By Step

          We recently bought a new house and moved. 

          We knew we wanted to move early in the year before we’d even applied for mortgages or found a realtor. 

          We started by cleaning out closets. One shelf at a time. We donated so much stuff! 

          Every step gets you closer. incremental steps

          Then we moved on to finding a realtor and making a list of what we wanted in a house. Where we wanted to live. What were non-negotiables when it came to location or the house layout. 

          And there were so many lists. Address changes to make. Documents to gather to apply for our mortgage. Items to figure out the best place to donate. 

          The lists helped us know the next steps to take. I could sit down and spend 10 minutes changing addresses. I knew the order we wanted to pack the house so I could work on 1-2 boxes each day. 

          Knowing the next step of any project helps it be less overwhelming. 

          When you get a new project or are feeling stuck on a current one, spend some time figuring out all the steps. As small as possible. 

          Then do the first one. And the next one. Slowly but surely, you will get there.

          Want to get started with your next steps? Sign up below for a PDF that guides you through figuring out the next steps.

            Add A Little Structure

            It’s 5 pm. I’m staring at the fridge, wondering what we’re going to have for dinner. I don’t like to cook. If it’s not planned or prepped, we’re having frozen pizza. 

            Once we started weekly meal planning (and prepping) our weeknight dinners got easier. Veggies and potatoes were prepped and the meat was defrosted. All I needed to do was turn on the oven, toss everything in a pan, and roast it. 

            Sunday is laundry day. I refuse to wash clothes any other day of the week unless absolutely necessary. If you want your clothes washed, they better be in the hamper when I start. Otherwise, it waits until next week. 

            Routines are helpful concept. tired housewife meditates in lotus position in laundry room near washing machine and dirty clothes

            I’m working on implementing certain days of the week for certain works tasks. Something like marketing Monday. Where Monday is focused on all my marketing tasks. Maybe you have planning meetings on certain days of the week or focus on specific projects at specific times. 

            Do you find routines stifling or helpful? Do you think that having routines in your life helps with your creativity? Or hurts it? 

            It is possible to have routines in your life and also flexibility. When your days are planned and structured down to the minute, any disruption throws things into disarray. 

            When you have routines and structure with space for the unexpected, everything flows smoothly. 

            What routines do you need in your days? Below are a few areas to add routines to your days. 

            • Laundry
            • Meal planning and prep
            • Recurring work tasks
            • Morning routines
            • Evening routines

            Ask yourself the following questions related to building routines:

            • What are all the steps needed to complete this routine?
            • When does each step need to happen?
            • Who is responsible for each step?

            I also recommend spending the last 30 minutes of your workday cleaning up your workspace. Check your calendar and tasks for tomorrow. Celebrate what you accomplished today. Process emails. File paperwork. Check your physical inbox, if you have one. Prepare yourself for tomorrow. 

            Routines can make your life easier! And when your brain knows that tasks are taken care of, it can solve other problems!

            Want more ideas on adding routines to your life? Sign up below for a PDF to get you started!

              Task Management

              Last week we talked about shifting your thinking. It’s one of the steps I think is most important and also the hardest. This week we are going to look at something a little more tangible, task management. 

              I realized that it was taking me too long to put away laundry because my kid’s clothes are often inside out. I was spending too much time turning everything right side out. So I stopped. My daughter recently wore a pair of pants wrong side out because that’s how they came out of the drawer. I’m not taking the time to fix that and apparently, my kids don’t care! And next time they’ll be correct because they turned right side out again when she took them off! It seems to only bother the adults when kids wear something wrong-side out or backward. Let’s let it go!

              I’m sharing this story because your task list is long. And it could likely be shorter. But you’ve said yes to too many things. And you’re doing too much.

              Do you know where your time goes? Not just guessing, but truly knowing? 

              Do you have a sense of all your tasks? Including activities, commitments,  and upcoming projects? 

              Do you spend your days with tasks running through your head? 

              And have you ever timed your tasks so that you know how long a recurring task takes? 

              Track your time

              Even if you think you know where your time goes, it’s helpful to track your time. Over the course of a week, document each task, in 30-minute increments. This doesn’t mean that you sit down at the end of the day and write down what you think you did. You stop what you’re doing every 30 minutes and write it down. Use these resources to help with this.

              Then go back and review your week. How much time was spent on social media? What time was wasted on activities that were unnecessary? How much time are you spending on work tasks? Were there any surprises or did it make sense to you? 

              Use this information to change your future scheduling. Identify what’s working and what’s not. 

              Complete a Brain Dump

              Your brain was designed to have ideas, not hold them. Take 10 minutes and write down everything that’s on your mind. All the tasks, big or small. 

              Use a piece of paper. Use a Google doc. Try a task manager. Make it easy. 

              Then, gather all your flagged emails. All your post-its. All your other lists. 

              And in front of you is likely something overwhelming. It’s everything you’ve committed to. 

              Take a breath. We’re going to work through this. 

              Often, the act of getting these thoughts out of your head and documented in front of you helps you prioritize what’s next. You can see what you can delete or delegate. And you can see what needs to be done today or this week. 

              One of the best things to do here is to make sure all your projects are broken down into the smallest next step. It’s easier to take the next step than look at a task that says monthly report. What does that mean? But when it says call Tom in sales for June’s numbers your brain knows what to do next. 

              This topic is bigger than what I’m going to get into here. Start with the brain dump and initial triage. Then write out each step of a project, no matter how small. 

              Time Your Tasks

              This is a great idea for all of your recurring tasks. Laundry, meal planning, monthly reports. Anything you do on a regular basis. 

              Time them.  Don’t guess. Humans are terrible at estimating their time.

              Once you know (roughly) how long they take, you can schedule them.

              This is task management at a high level! If you want more ideas, take this quick course!

              Shift Your Thinking

              In the next few weeks, we are going to walk through the acronym STRIDE. It covers the ideas I believe are most important when it comes to how we spend our time. Let’s take a look at Shift Your Thinking.

              shift your thinking. a picture of a lightbulb

              My youngest takes her socks off and leaves them wherever she happens to be. So there are socks everywhere. My kid’s idea of cleaning up is making a pile of their toys somewhere without actually putting them in their homes (we have this conversation on a regular basis, we’re working on it). 

              We just moved into a new home. And are likely moving back out shortly because there are so many things wrong with the house that we can’t live here until things are fixed. (a story for another time). So we haven’t unpacked much more than we need. And most of that stuff is sitting on the floor, the kitchen counters, and the couch. Because we haven’t bothered organizing items that are going to back in boxes soon. 

              It’s overwhelming. It’s draining. And it’s frustrating. 

              Have you ever looked around your house and seen nothing but piles of things that need to be dealt with? 

              Maybe it’s looking at all the projects you have for work. You feel like you’re never going to get them completed on time because there are too many and the deadlines are not possible. 

              Or you’ve looked at your schedule and wondered how so many activities ended up there. How are you going to get your family to all these places during the week and ever eat dinner together again? 

              Society has us believe that we need to do it all. Take it all on. Say yes to everything. Be busy all the time. Consume. Consume. Consume. 

              But is that really how you want to be living? Being resentful that you’re working and taking care of the kids and cleaning the house and doing laundry and signing everyone up for activities and planning the next vacation? You are wondering why no one else is helping or participating?

              You’re exhausted? And drained? And over it?

              There is a better way. And that starts with shifting your thinking. 

              First, it’s knowing that you don’t need to do it all. That your partner is capable of doing things around the house. And if it doesn’t seem that way, then maybe some counseling is in order. And your kids are capable of participating in household chores.

              It’s understanding that you don’t need to be constantly scheduled with activities for you and your family. That even if each of you takes on one activity per season that’s still plenty of practices, games, and places to be. 

              It’s shifting expectations, not lowering them. Do you need to sweep your kitchen floor every night? Or get to inbox zero every day? What happens if you don’t? 

              I’ve decided that I’m not organizing a house that is going to be packed up again soon. I’m going to focus on spending time with my kids and on my work. And maybe relaxing when I can. Because although this house has some structural issues, it also has a beautiful backyard. And sitting outside enjoying the quiet of the neighborhood while watching my kids play on the swing set is a beautiful thing. It’s finding a bit of joy in the chaos. 

              When you start focusing on the right things. What really and truly matters today. You start getting stuff done during the day. You make progress on your projects and your tasks. Because they belong there. They’re what matters to you and your family and your career. 

              Where can you shift your thinking today?

              Want to get started on how to shift your thinking? Sign up for the PDF below!

                Sourdough starter. Growth. Finding your passion.

                Many articles from the past year would make you believe that you are not doing enough. With so many people being home during the pandemic you suddenly had time to clean out your closets, finish all those personal projects that have been lingering on your to-do list, and learn a new language. And if you didn’t suddenly find yourself motivated to tackle all of these things, well, that’s on you. It’s not that you haven’t had time, you’re just lazy and lack discipline. 

                Huh. Really? 

                lack discipline text says: your worth is not equal to your productivity. How much you get done each day does not make you sho you are.

                Because you weren’t also taking care of kids while juggling full-time work or just trying to get through the day because it seems as though the world is coming down around us. 

                I have shared how I feel this pandemic has wiped the slate clean for many of us. How this is a great time to think about what we want our lives to look like as we move forward. And not to rush back to the craziness of life BC (before Covid). 

                It’s ok if that hasn’t happened. If you’re aware of it but not ready to process it or figure it out. 

                We are going to be processing the trauma of this pandemic for years to come. Disruption is everywhere. And the changes keep coming. 

                The pandemic is still here. And as long as people are still refusing to get vaccinated and wear masks, it’s not going anywhere. Until more of the global population has access to vaccines, it’s not going anywhere. 

                And we are going to struggle to move forward until that changes.

                There are many articles out there related to your productivity and the pandemic. Getting motivated to work during the stress of a pandemic. (here are my thoughts on that) That with no commute, you have so much more time on your hands! You should be working more! 

                Because our society will have you believe that the more you get done, the more you produce, and the more you cross off your to-do list, the better! Because our value is all about productivity. 

                No. It’s not. 

                You are not your productivity.

                If at the end of the day your kids are loved and fed, you are doing enough. 

                Surviving a pandemic is enough. 

                One of the things we talk about in my virtual community, Stride Together, is that knowing what’s important to you helps you prioritize your tasks. You focus on the things moving you, your family, and your business/job forward. That productivity is not about getting it all done every day.

                If you’re struggling with this, let’s talk. I want to help you clarify these things for you. Even if it’s to set you up for success as we move out of the fog of this pandemic.

                Check out the PDF below to get started on this topic.

                  Manis/Pedis. Massages. Bubbles baths.

                  Manis/Pedis. Massages. Bubbles baths. Chocolate (or your favorite junk food). 

                  I don’t believe any of these things are really self-care. They’re what society has told us is self-care. 

                  massages. bubble baths. self-care.

                  And we’re told that we should be taking care of ourselves. Not feeling guilty for taking that bubble bath or getting a massage. 

                  And yes, we should be taking care of ourselves. And no, we should not be feeling guilty for filling our cup. 

                  But we need to take some time to figure out what really feeds our souls. And, we should be taking the time to find activities that we truly enjoy. Not what we think we should be doing. 

                  We need to be building lives that we don’t need to escape from. 

                  This means that we don’t need a weekly massage so that we can have an hour of quiet time because we have time to ourselves and for ourselves built into the week (and we actually make that time happen).  

                  That we’re not hiding in the pantry eating cookies straight from the package while hiding from our kids because we actually enjoy spending time with them. We fill their cups too and we have scheduled breaks from them to fill our cups.  

                  Yes, I do enjoy my hot chocolate. I believe chocolate feeds my soul. I am also aware that it’s a quick fix. It’s not going to fix whatever it is that got me to this place of feeling drained. 

                  Now, if you love your weekly massages, then have them. But don’t use them as your only form of self-care. Same for manis/pedis. 

                  What do you do for self-care? Beyond bubble baths and massages? What really feeds your soul?

                  For me, going to bed early with a good book fills my cup. Sometimes it’s a long phone call with a friend. 

                  Want to get started on creating a life you don’t need to escape from? Start with this PDF. Or, contact me and let’s chat!

                    The Sunday Scaries and the Need to Escape

                    It’s Sunday night. I’m wondering what the heck happened to my weekend. What exactly did we do? I think I crossed a bunch of tasks off my list. The laundry is washed and dried, not necessarily put away. I’m tired. And I’m starting to dread Monday.

                    I’m looking at my calendar and tasks for the week. The week looks full. Maybe even overflowing. How am I going to get through this week? I’m tired just thinking about this week. I already wish it was Friday! 

                    dread Monday. woman looking overwhelmed at the clothes and mess in her living room.

                    Sound familiar? 

                    Life doesn’t have to be this way! Because we don’t have to continue to be so busy that we’re exhausted simply thinking about our week. 

                    We don’t need to dread Monday!

                    What if you designed a life you don’t need to escape from? 

                    If you knew your daily priorities and that you were able to complete them? 

                    Maybe you even have time for activities you love? For that ever-elusive ‘me-time’? (I promise, it is possible!)

                    I want you to do something for me. Spend some time thinking about what you want your life to look like in the (near) future. If you didn’t have the dreaded Sunday scaries.

                    Maybe it’s planning something fun that you look forward to for Monday or Tuesday nights. It doesn’t have to be complicated. It could be a regular phone call with a friend. A virtual dance class or yoga class. 

                    Try saying no to any new activities that come your way, while you figure out what activities you and your family want to take on next. Not signing up for soccer, dance, and piano lessons for each kid. Pick one activity for each family member (which can, honestly, still be a lot to manage each week). 

                    I know that might feel like a lot right now. I’m just asking you to think about it. 

                    I think this pandemic has changed so much for all of us. In big and little ways. We’re physically and emotionally exhausted and drained. Our routines are a mess. Our ability to make decisions is fried. We never know if the decisions we’re making are right. 

                    Maybe you’ve spent the past year and a half barely surviving each day. It was all you could do to get your work done and take care of your kids. You looked at Facebook and felt like everyone else was taking on a new hobby or finding their passion (whatever that means!). 

                    And you know what? That’s ok. 

                    Simply getting through each day is sometimes enough. Sometimes that’s all we can do.

                    I’m so tired of hearing people talk about getting back to normal. I don’t want to go back to normal. I’m not even sure what that is. I don’t want to go back to who I was in 2019 or even February 2020. I’m not the same person. 

                    For me, this pandemic has wiped my slate clean. It’s clarified so much for me. What’s important to me. Who is important to me. What I want my life to look like in the future. 

                    Honestly, rebuilding from scratch sounds less exhausting than going back to the way things were. Where you ran from one activity to another without really thinking about it. Attending every birthday party, sports activity, and event you were invited to. Using retail therapy as a way to feel better about how crazy things were. And talking about being busy like it was a badge of honor. 

                    How about creating your life with intention. Building a life that you don’t need to escape from. That doesn’t require weekly massages or bubble baths to relax or feel slightly better about things (next week’s topic). 

                    What steps can you start on now? They can be the smallest steps necessary! Take that first step and see where it leads you!

                    Keep reading here and here. And if you want some help on this, check out this PDF. It’ll walk you through steps on designing a life you love!

                      A Simple Game Of Mousetrap

                      Have you ever played the game of Mousetrap? I remember sitting in my grandparent’s house, putting the game together. I don’t think we ever played the game as designed. Just put the pieces together and sent the marble through the system.

                      a game of mousetrap put the pieces together.

                      There’s cause and effect. If something goes wrong, the end result is different. But, when things go smoothly, you get what you want at the end (unless you’re the mouse being caught). 

                      It builds on itself. You need the pieces to connect in a certain way for it to work. 

                      The same can be said for systems (and routines) in our own life. Pieces need to connect in certain ways. And when something is off, things can go wrong. 

                      What routines in your life need some work? What systems can you create? 

                      As we start a new school year, what routines do you need to build back into your family? 

                      Here are a few to think about. What do you need to put in place? What needs to be tweaked?

                      • Laundry 
                      • Meal planning 
                      • Family meetings 
                      • Processing emails (personal and work)
                      • Recurring work tasks

                      This week, as you’re thinking about meal planning, here’s something to help you! My friend, Mary Gaul, designed a Magic Meal Planner for you. No more wasting food, time, or money. 

                      The Magic Meal Planning System is a paper planner that includes your meals for the week and a built-in grocery list.  Along with Mary’s systems, tips, and 6 weeks of meal plan ideas, it makes meal planning, shopping, and prepping easy! 

                      It helps you have a clear answer to the question – “what’s for dinner tonight?”

                      Go to and get yours today for less than one meal out for a family of 4! 

                      Use the code Meals10 to save $10!

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                      Contact me and let me know what routine you are going to focus on this week!

                      Go To Bed

                      That’s right. You and your kids need to go to bed. Yes, it’s August and it’s still summer. But, school is going to be here before you know it. Here in the Denver metro area, schools start in mid-August. 

                      If you’ve been letting your kids stay up late and sleep in, now is the time to get back on a better schedule. Don’t wait until the night before school starts to enforce an earlier bedtime. It takes several weeks to shift things. Start to shift things by 10 minutes each night. Slowly get back to a school-night bedtime. 

                      Spend some time thinking about your evening routines. What can you do at night to make your mornings better? Pack lunches? Pack backpacks and work bags? Set out breakfast? 

                      And, you need to go to bed too.

                      Sleep is important. If you’ve been skimping on sleep because you feel overwhelmed by everything you need to do, then stop it. Sleep (and taking breaks) actually helps you get more done each day. 

                      go to bed bedside table with book and flower.

                      When you’re tired, you’re not efficient. 

                      You make mistakes. 

                      You’re slower both physically and mentally. 

                      So go to bed. 

                      Ok. Now that you’re getting some sleep, start thinking about your morning routines. Are you getting up earlier than your kids? What needs to happen in the morning to make the rest of your day easier? Run the dishwasher? Put dinner in the crockpot? Here are a few ideas for morning routines. 

                      Think about your evening and morning routines now. Start working on sleep habits for you and your family. Start the school year off on the right foot, not kicking and screaming! 

                      If you’re not sure what you want your routines to look like (and really, who knows what school is going to look like again this year) let’s talk! I can help you create routines to make your mornings and evening better for everyone.

                      Not sure you’re ready to dive into changing your routines but want to get a little bit of support? Sign up for a free PDF on my STRIDE Method. Everything I do in my business (and in my own life) follows these ideas.

                        Where Do I Even Start?

                        In this beautiful book I read with my kids, Suzy is told by her mom to pick up her room. Her room is such a mess that she’s not even sure where to start. She feels overwhelmed by the mess. What should she do? 

                        Man starting at brick wall with question marks on post-it notes. Where to start?

                        Have you been there? 

                        Have you ever taken a look at your kitchen, the piles of kids’ toys, your to-do list for work, and just stood there? 

                        Overwhelmed and unsure of where to even start? 

                        I have. 

                        The endless lists. The piles that keep appearing, like a game of whack-a-mole. The dishes, laundry, kids’ toys. The emails, slack messages, interruptions. 

                        Where do you even start? 

                        Do what Suzy and her mom do. (and what I do with my kids when their toys are all over the house). 

                        Play the seek and sort game. Pick one task, one list, one subject. And start. 

                        Process your emails (not just read them, but respond, delete, file, figure out the next action). 

                        Find that one task that’s been lingering on your list and do it. 

                        Find all the tasks that will take less than two minutes and see how many you can do in 30 minutes. 

                        The point here is to pick one spot, any spot, and tackle it. 

                        Set a timer for 15 minutes and work on that task you have been avoiding. 

                        And, if you’re really struggling, put all the tasks on separate sheets of paper in a bowl and draw one out. Do it. Repeat. 

                        Seek. Sort. Start. 

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                          It’s Not That Simple

                          I’m standing in my kitchen. I need to empty my coffee maker. I’d like to clean it out too.

                          it's not that simple Toys on stair with foot about to step no them.

                          But I’m stuck. The compost bin is full and if I attempt to dump coffee grounds in it, the grounds will end up all over the counter.

                          I don’t want to take the time to empty the compost bin before I clean out the coffee maker. It’s a few steps, but it feels like too many right now. I have other things I need to get to. 

                          So, I do what any sane person would do in this situation, I walk away to deal with it later. 

                          While this is a simple (and maybe silly) problem, this feeling of being stuck, of wanting to deal with something but feeling overwhelmed by the steps, is common. 

                          It might be wanting to hire a housecleaner or a nanny. Maybe it’s getting your kids to do more around the house. Or you want regular date nights with your partner but don’t have a reliable babysitter.

                          Whatever it is, take a few minutes to figure out the steps to get you there. Whether it’s researching babysitters or asking your neighbors for their housecleaner recommendations.

                          Whether it’s something where you need to do it yourself or you want to delegate it, getting started is tough.

                          But think about what that’s costing you in the long run. If you could hire a nanny or a house cleaner, what kind of time would that get you? 

                          Figure out the first step and then take it.

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                            Let’s Play

                            Have you lost your ability to play? 

                            ability to play. empty swing on a beach.

                            When we become mothers, we’re so focused on raising children, taking care of the house, working, etc. that we forget how to have fun.

                            Our society makes us think that leisure time or doing anything for fun, without a purpose, is lazy. That there must always be a purpose to something. And yes, we talk a lot about productivity and priorities here. 

                            It’s also important to play. Taking a break, resting and recharging helps our productivity. We might come up with a solution to a work problem while on a hike. Maybe the next great idea for your business comes while walking your dog or spending time with friends. 

                            We often collapse on the couch to watch TV because we’re too exhausted to do anything else. But watching TV is not always restorative. We choose it because we’re not sure what else to do with our time. It’s an easy choice. Or we’re folding laundry, paying bills, or doing something else while we watch TV. 

                            And we don’t need one more thing to do. It’s easier to keep plugging away at our to-do list. We’ll do something fun when our kids are older or the to-do list is done.

                            What if we took the time to play? 

                            The National Institute of Play says on their website that play is the gateway to vitality. 

                            Studies have shown that kids who have more unstructured free time to play are more social and academically proficient in life. It’s important for kids to have unstructured free time. This is where they learn social skills, their own limits, etc. 

                            But play shouldn’t be only for kids. Adults need it too. And it needs to be something we for the fun of it. 

                            Escape Adulthood is one of my favorite places to remind me to add a little play to my life. They remind me to stop being so focused on my to-do list and be more present. To find ways to add fun and whimsy to my days. And that it doesn’t need to be a big event for it to be fun.

                            Play could be learning a new instrument, taking voice lessons, learning how to sew, volunteering, taking a class on any topic that interests you, hiking. The point is to do it for the fun of it. Not because you need to do it for work or you want to lose ten pounds. 

                            I want to add more play to my life. Find new hobbies, learn new skills. And learn to be more present. I’d like to buy a piano soon and start taking lessons again. I’d like to snowshoe and cross-country ski. I also want to check out some dance classes from Put On Your Dance Shoes (POYDS). Or, if you want some virtual yoga or meditation in your life, check out Cindy Glennon Wellness

                            What about you? What do you for fun these days? 

                            Email me and let me know what you do for fun! Or schedule some time to chat so we can help you find time to play!

                            Big Rocks and Sand

                            You’ve likely heard the story or watched a video about big rocks and how it relates to your time.

                            what are your big rocks? jar of rocks.

                            Big rocks are the important things in your life. Tasks that support your values. To-dos that move you forward in your business or your personal life. Activities that are important to you. And the sand and pebbles fill in the other parts.

                            If you fill a glass with sand (emails, interruptions, time-wasters), there is no room for the big rocks (exercise, time with family and friends, work tasks that truly move your business or career forward). But, if you fill the glass with big rocks first, the sand fills in the cracks around them. 

                            You can have the same amount of sand and rocks. Same size cup. Different order of dealing with them. 

                            Spend some time this week thinking about your big rocks. What are they? Are you making time for them and scheduling them first? Figure out what they are and start scheduling them first. 

                            Let the sand fill in around them. 

                            And remember, sometimes we have to say no to things that seem good because they’re not great. And they don’t support our big rocks. Maybe they get put on the someday/maybe list (a topic for later this month). Or maybe you simply say no because they don’t support your big rocks. 

                            When we focus on our big rocks, even through small steps each day, big things can happen. 

                            Schedule a call with me or send me a message if you want help figuring out your big rocks! Or get a PDF to help get you started.

                              It’s Never Enough

                              Do you spend your days (maybe pre-pandemic) running from one activity to another with your kids? Playdates, tutors, sports, music lessons, one right after the other. Until you get home and realize you never planned dinner and the kids still have homework and you’re all exhausted? Then you remember that after dinner, you or your partner are running back out the door to attend one of your own commitments at church or school or somewhere? And it feels like it’s never enough.

                              empty swing on the beach. It's never enough.

                              Why do we do this to ourselves? Are you happy never really being present and with being exhausted all the time? 

                              Do you do it because you feel you need to? 

                              Because you’re so busy you’ve never taken the time to think about why you’re doing all of this? 

                              Time studies show that working moms spend as much time with their kids each week as stay-at-home moms in the 1960s. And SAHM’s spend more time with the kids now than in the 1960s. 

                              (I will pause here and say, all moms work, whether they have a paying job in addition to child-rearing or not. For the sake of this discussion, working moms are those who have a paying job. And SAHM’s are full-time stay-at-home-moms.)

                              And, no matter what we’re doing outside of parenting, society tells us it’s never enough. It starts with mommy and me classes (why dads aren’t included here is a topic I’ll get into soon). Then all the afterschool activities and the intensive help with homework and school projects. 

                              And it intensifies as kids get closer to college age. We’re conditioned to believe that our kids must get into the best colleges or they won’t be successful in life. Heaven forbid they want to go to the local community college or try something different with their lives. That’s not ok. We’ll look like failures as a mother. 

                              And, to be a good mother, we must be on the PTA, attending all activities that we possibly can, volunteering in the classroom, and bringing homemade goodies anytime food was required. 

                              I volunteered once in my kids’ preschool and decided that it was not for me. I did volunteer a few times during my oldest’s kindergarten and first-grade years. And I left the PTA because I think schools shouldn’t have to fundraise and it just creates even more distance between wealthy and low-income schools (also a topic for another time). And I’m not going to feel guilty about any of it.

                              If you want to volunteer for these things and it works with your schedule, then do it. If it doesn’t, then let it go and don’t feel bad about it. Society needs all types of people to function. We cannot be all things to all people. 

                              On one hand, many articles (mostly in the 80s and 90s) came out telling mothers they were abandoning their kids by going to work. That this was going to be the downfall of society because moms were working outside of the home and not home raising kids and taking care of the house. 

                              At the same time, time studies were showing that mothers were spending more time with their kids than previous generations. 

                              So our society is built on this myth that moms must spend all their time enriching their kids’ lives.

                              And as mothers starting working outside the home, they started sacrificing sleep, self-care, and their sanity to spend as much time as possible with their kids. 

                              And feeling guilty about the whole thing because they feel like they’re failing no matter what they’re doing! 

                              Let’s all admit that this is hard. Parenthood doesn’t come with a guide. We’re doing the best we can with the resources we can. Whether you work outside the home, stay at home, work part-time, have no choice for either one, or fully choose it, let’s all support each other in this. 

                              If you don’t want to volunteer on the PTA or in the classroom, don’t. If that’s your jam, then do it. Let’s be aware of these myths society is selling us and know that we’re all just doing the best we can.

                              Contact me and let’s chat about how this shows up in your life.

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                                The Ideal Mother

                                Last week we talked about maternal gatekeeping. How, as women, we’re conditioned to believe we’re better at parenting and housekeeping than our partners. How we are the ones who need to control everything, to ensure it’s done right (or done at all). And how we need to stop letting society create these ridiculous standards. 

                                This conditioning comes from what’s known as the Ideal Mother. This is the idea that a mother know’s best. We’re led to believe this from a young age. 

                                Men are conditioned to believe they are the ideal worker and the breadwinner. Jobs are designed around the ideal worker. The person who is always available for their work. They don’t have a life outside of work. It’s expected that there’s someone else (usually a wife), at home making sure the kids are taken care of, the house is cleaned, and dinner is on the table. 

                                So what happens when the wife works too? Life gets complicated. Women are expected to work like they don’t have a family to take care of and care for their family like they don’t have a job. 

                                But this isn’t possible and it isn’t fair. And it’s time to break this expectation. 

                                And it starts with a conversation. 

                                Yes, this might feel like one more thing you have to do. And it is. But it’s also the only way we’re going to change things. We need to get our partners on board here. And not in a guilt and shame-filled way. But in a way that leads us to be true partners, sharing childcare and household tasks in a way that’s fair to everyone. (that is different from sharing things 50/50). 

                                woman overwhelmed by too many tasks around the house. the ideal mother maternal gatekeeping

                                One of the first things to discuss is an acceptable level of cleanliness and which Eve Rodksy, in her book Fair Play, labels Minimum Standard of Care. These are the agreed-upon expectations of everything in a house. Who cleans out the cat litter and when does it happen? What about the trash? What about family activities, like soccer, piano lessons, church choir, etc.? How many activities does each family member take on each season? How often do you have family dinners? 

                                When my kids started elementary school, I decided we were only attending birthday parties with my kids’ friends. Not every birthday party. We were not going to sign up for every activity possible. Each person gets one, maybe two activities per semester. 

                                Remember, you do not need to spend every day after school driving your kids around to activities. Pick one of their favorites. Carpool. Schedule things so it all happens on one crazy day, where you have take-out for dinner. Or where you can trade off with your partner on who does the driving. Meet a friend for a walk around the park while your kids are at soccer practice. Or spend one-on-one time with one kid while the other(s) are at practice. 

                                Don’t feel obligated to say yes to everything.

                                There is no need to wear yourself out. It is ok for kids to be kids. To learn how to entertain themselves. Let them figure it out. 

                                If you want to talk more about how to incorporate this in your life, how to let go of all of the tasks, schedule some time with me!

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