Yes, asking for something to change feels hard. Because it feels like your partner should see everything that needs to be done around the house, just like you.

You’re standing in the kitchen thinking about how annoyed you are with the dishes 🍽️, and they swoop in to help?

He sees all your hard work around the house and with the kids 🏠👶.

And he steps up and does a bunch of tasks without even asking ✅.

He figures out what’s for dinner 🍝.

He does an entire load of laundry from beginning to end 🧺. You even find socks magically put away where they belong! 🧦✨

Why is it on you to ask for something to change? 🤔 Why can’t your partner just figure it out? You did! 💪

Yes, it doesn’t feel fair that you need to be the one asking for change. It’d be nice if your partner could read your mind 🌀.

However, that likely isn’t your current reality!

First, think of the costs to you not changing anything 🛑.

There’s a cost to your relationship 💔. As you grow more exhausted and resentful, you start to feel alone and isolated in your partnership.

I’m guessing that you’d rather have a loving, supportive partnership ❤️🤝. The two of you against the world 🌎. Not the two of you battling it out over dishes 🍽️⚔️.

There’s the loss of your own identity 🌀. You’ve forgotten who you are outside of being a parent and partner.

You want to do something besides work, take care of the kids, and manage the household 🏠. You want to remember what makes you uniquely you 🌟.

There’s also the cost to your mental and physical health 🧘‍♀️. When you are exhausted and stressed out, there’s no bandwidth for you to take care of yourself. You want time to pursue your own hobbies and passions 🎨, or even just go to the bathroom in peace and quiet 🚪🛁.

And you are showing your kids that it’s ok for a mom to wear herself out doing everything for the family 😔. To be the one sacrificing her own goals for the sake of her kids.

I’m guessing this is not what you want ❌. You want something better for yourself and your family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦. Where you are not exhausted, resentful, and stressed out every day 😩.

Those are all big reasons to start the conversation toward change 💬.

By starting a conversation now 🗣️, and taking the first step 🚶‍♀️, you are breaking this pattern.

When you and your partner are working together 🤝, everyone is happier 😊.

And the household runs smoother 🚀.

I know this feels like a big undertaking. But in reality, it can start with a small change 🔄.

One shift that has a big impact 🌟.

This is the work I do with my clients. It’s more than delegating a task or managing our to-do lists better to get more done.

It’s creating sustainable change ⚖️ and getting everyone on the same team 👫.

I can help you make this happen. This is possible in your life 💖.

Even if you’re unsure if this is the right next step, let’s chat! Schedule a call with me today and let’s get started!

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