Ever wish you could spend more time with your friends? 

But it’s so hard to get together. You talk about it, but never quite make it happen. You both seem so busy, and neither of you has the energy to actually leave the house for dinner or even a cup of coffee together. And if it’s a group of friends? Forget it, that’s even harder! 

It’s easier to accept that you’ll spend the next 5 years texting funny memes back and forth. 

I had a friend tell me that it was just too hard to get together with friends because of her kids. 

This made me so sad because it’s not true. You should spend time with your friends.

I get that it’s hard to find time in our busy schedules for something that isn’t for our immediate family. We’re busy driving our kids around to all their activities. And there are so many errands and tasks to do just to keep the household slightly afloat. Plus, our friends’ schedules are as swamped as ours. 

If you like how busy you are, this is not for you. If you’re fully embracing being a soccer parent or hockey mom, and you love this season of life, keep at it – enjoy it. Soak up every minute. 

This is for those moms who feel obligated to keep their kids busy with multiple, structured activities. Because that’s what they’ve been led to believe good parents do. 

But when we see being busy as a badge of honor, instead of something to fight back against, we wear ourselves out and don’t get to focus on things that are important to us. 

If you want to focus on your family and not friendships right now, that’s fine. Own that. And I hope that one day, when you come up for air, you’re able to reclaim those friendships or build new ones. 

But maybe it doesn’t have to be so hard to do something for ourselves, either. Yes, we get one chance at raising our kids. And we want to be present for them in their lives. 

And, it’s also your life. You get to be a whole person, even during your kids’ childhood. Think of how amazing it would feel to model to your kids that you get to be a person outside of being a mom. 

And, maybe you’re feeling like even if your kids weren’t busy, the to-do list is so long you can’t step away from it. A night out just means more work. 

Yes, there are seasons when life is busy, and making time for a cup of coffee with a friend isn’t going to work out. 

But what if we prioritize friendships more? At least a little? 

What if we didn’t make it so complicated? Maybe it’s a quick cup of coffee while the kids play on the playground. Or a scheduled phone call while you’re walking the dog or walking around the park during soccer practice. 

Yes, motherhood is hard. But you don’t have to feel like you’re drowning. 

Ready to find some time to hang out with your friends? Let’s talk. Or learn more about how to work with me here.