When you see a dad at the playground with his kids, what’s the first thing that goes through your head? Is it different than what you’d think about a mom at the playground?
When your partner takes care of the kids for an afternoon while you run errands or hang out with some girlfriends, what is going through your mind?
When I or my husband heads out for an evening with friends, the other one is fully in charge of the kids. That means if there’s a meltdown happening as I head out the door, I leave. Because my husband is also a parent and he can handle it. But I’ve had friends bail on dinner because one of their kids was having a tough time going to bed.
Now, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that. If you feel your kids need you, then give them that attention.
But if you’re staying because you don’t think your partner can handle it, let’s talk about that.
There is this double standard in our society. When dads do something like take their kids to the park, we see it as this hero move. Oh, look at him, spending time with his kids. He’s such a good dad.
Yet, I could guarantee you we don’t say that about moms. When we see a mom at the park, it’s not a big deal. We’ll judge her for being on her phone or not playing with her kids. Maybe the kid falls down – it’s the mom’s fault. Not just what kids do.
My husband doesn’t babysit. He’s not a hero for taking the kids to the park or sitting down to play legos with them. He’s a dad. This is what parents do.
I’ll stay off my soap box for how our society has created this mess and how we feed right into it as parents.
But remember this, dads don’t babysit!